We have a mix of people visiting our blog; some are into BDSM in Real Life only and some are into BDSM in Second Life only (I know that this is a provocative statement to some RL BDSM fundamentalist, but what heck, deal with it!). Some are, like us, into BDSM both in Second Life and Real Life. This post is mostly targeted at people that are curious about BDSM in Second Life.

One of the best things with Second Life is that it is totally free to join.

Second Life is basically a vast 3D online environment, which is based on user created content. Some want to define Second Life as a game, I don’t want to label it as a game for a couple of reasons;

  • There are no specified tasks or goal within Second Life
  • There are no built in functions to judge whether you have reached any specific game oriented goals

The fact that Second Life is based on user created material has turned it into a diverse and flourishing world.

This also means that the sex domain is well developed within Second Life as well and this is a subject that sometimes splits the community within Second Life and is often debated. The sex scene is usually represented by the most common thing: Escorts and escort clubs and the come in all shapes – Demons, humans etc. The fact that you can earn real life money from escorting in Second Life has turned this into a widespread but inflated business opportunity to most people entering the sex scene as providers.

The tool that is often used to communicate the sexual experience is text chat, which can be public or private; but voice can also be used in Second Life and is growing slowly to be used in a sexual context, but also requires one to overcome shyness etc. Faking an orgasm in voice is most of the time easily recognised, so the ability to get off on cybersex is also necessary. I find it very arousing to hear another person cum, even if they are on the other side of the world – Maybe that is the peeping tom in me that drives that arousement.

The sex scene in Second Life also drives the diversity of kinks that are available to the people that wants to consume them, if you can find the kink in real life, then you can find it in Second Life without any doubt. Finding people into BDSM in Second Life is never a problem.

There are a multitude of places doing BDSM in Second Life, some are based on real life counter parts, some are based on kinks that would be hard to live out in real life, due to technical or social reasons. Whether you are into femdom, gor or prison play – You will always be able to find a place that caters for your kink.

What I like the most of Second Life is the possibility of bumping into people with the same kink and have an exchange of experiences and sharing of knowledge, just like you have in a forum but in real time. To me going into Second Life and talk about kinks, and preferably BDSM, is like meeting up with like-minded in a pub or at a club and have a good chat.

There are of course drawbacks as well and it is the same problems that you have with ordinary forums – How do you know how experienced a person is; you don’t. But then again, the ability to judge another person’s knowledge is based on your own knowledge and maybe you don’t know if you are lacking knowledge? I always look at what people do when they do BDSM in Second Life, I always listen to how they think around certain matters and how they take responsibility for their actions.

When it comes to BDSM then there are different ways to express that in Second Life, and there is one significant difference compared to real life BDSM. You cannot use physical stimulation as pain, flogging etc, as it cannot be transferred through the virtual environment and out into real life. Most good submissives will of course do what you tell them to do, unless they are disobedient, and administer the physical actions you order them to carry out. This is not the same as doing a scene in real life, but it comes pretty close.

To a lot of people this feels more safe than doing BDSM in real life as Second Life is a safety layer between the two people in a virtual scene. The sexual emotions can be as equally intense – But slightly different compared to real life and to be honest; I am not sure such a comparison is valid because if you compare too much with real life BDSM then it is almost like you are implying that real life BDSM is better. My opinion is that it depends on what you want. I do both myself  and one doesn’t exclude the other, they work in tandem.

The safety of Second Life is important to a lot of people that are in the “I don’t dare to do it in real life” or “I don’t know if I will like it” phase. Then Second Life is the place for you and would say go for it! Second Life is a great learning environment and you can also try out a lot of things within BDSM. It might not be the best place to learn good flogging techniques, but you can definitely get a good feel for the psychological elements connected to real life BDSM – Those are easily communicated in Second Life. A good dominant will in most cases be good at messing with your head in Second Life and a lot of BDSM is head games. This also makes aftercare and similar things become equally important compared to real life. The problem with Second Life is that you can only talk when it comes to aftercare if that is needed – And it might not be sufficient enough.

Is it wrong to be a dominant in Second Life only? Not at all, to a lot of people Second Life is a testing ground and some eventually move the things they are doing in Second Life out in to real life and some people don’t – Either way is just fine. If it is enough with Second Life to cater for your urges and kinks, then that is totally fine. If you use Second Life to cater for some of your urges in between club meetings and real life scenes then that is totally fine as well.

Second Life is a powerful environment where you learn a lot about how people react under certain conditions, people sometimes behaves in strange ways in Second Life compared to how they would behave in real life. Second Life is also a place where you learn a lot about yourself and you are given the possibility to recreate yourself and try out different things in a safe manner.

Come and visit the people we have in our BDSM community in Second Life – And I can say without a doubt in my mind that a lot of them do BDSM in real life as well. So if you are looking for knowledge within two domains, Second Life and real life, then pop over to our places and have a good chat.

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