There are a lot of guides out there telling you how to do BDSM. Flogging, hair pulling, nipple torture is just a few of the topics being covered.

But where do you start?

Should you go full speed ahead and start with a 24/7 humiliation play with a tad of objectification while calling your wife your very own cum slut for the next two years? Probably not and as always; Let things gradually progress, allow yourself and your partner get accustomed to the new things that you are trying out. I found myself to be play horny in the beginning which made me want to do more that I could handle. It made me run into a wall. This doesn’t mean that you should lose the drive to experiment, but do it with only one goal in mind; To have fun!I’ve bumped into a lot of people that compare themselves to what other couples are doing within BDSM – And you know what? It doesn’t matter at all at the end of the day what others are doing. The only one you should benchmark against is yourself. BDSM is about personal growth and individual development, it’s about finding courage and to boldly go where you have never been before – One session at a time.

BDSM is to some people very scary because it looks like abuse on the outside, but the truth is that the beauty of BDSM is on the inside of every participant. The beauty occurs inside your brain as you preform a variety of actions together with your partner. Every action creates a response, physically, chemically as well as psychologically – It creates primal reactions.

Take it slow, let your body get used to what you are doing and let your brain adjust itself to all of these wonderful feelings.

New Mexico Daily Lobo has a wonderful article on how to start with your bare hands if you want to get into BDSM; Do it in the duke city: A crack of the whip can shake up a dull sex life – Take a look at it if you don’t know how to start with BDSM in your life.


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