This post is more targeted towards potential Dominants as they are usually the acting part in a BDSM session.

When you have read your books, been honest towards yourself and filled out your BDSM Check List, then what? At this point you should probably have a vague idea of what you want to do and what you enjoy. As a Dominant you are the caretaker of most of the actions during a scene and it means that some basic skills are required in order to carry out certain activities.

I would say that spanking and flogging are two required basic skills that you should be able to handle. Many things can go wrong if you are flogging or spanking someone where they aren’t supposed to be flogged.The most important limitation that you should pay attention to is the human body itself. It is quite resilient in some areas while being extremely fragile in others. You need to read up on which areas that are sensitive to flogging and spanking and which areas are OK – Be sure to read up on how the human body works. Your understanding of this is also crucial to your ability to read your partner during a session.

The other limitation you should pay attention to is the psychological limitations of your partner and these are not as easy to put in a template as the physical limitations – Each partner is unique and each partner has  different kinds of limits when it comes to what they can withstand and their thresholds. Some partners might enjoy a flogging to a very large extent while others might hate it.

But before you involve your partner you need to practice your basic skills and this is when you get your pillow out. Put the pillow somewhere at a suitable height and practice your aim and movements with your flogger. Your movements should be as fluid as possible and your aim should be good as possible because  a miss with a whip or a flogger might hurt the wrong way.

Forget about the fact that you might look silly when you are flogging away on a pillow in your living room because you will just look stupid if you flog away on your partner without any practice at all – It will just end up with you hurting your partner in a bad way.

Take a look at the video to get a good introduction on how to carry out some good flogging.