The Importance of Mistakes - BDSM Processing 101

I had an online conversation the other day with a person about mistakes. To cut…


Clear safewords are important

It is of utter most importance to have clear and understandable safewords - If…


What is a good submissive?

I talked to a friend online a couple of weeks ago and she told me that she…


Better late than never, Kandinsky Beaumont

Things have been busy here, so it has taken me a while to do a response to…


A dose of Saturday ignorance thanks to Kandinsky Beaumont

There are different people in our world and different levels of acceptance, but…


Importance of aftercare

Aftercare is a very important concept within BDSM and an uttermost necessity.…


The importance of boundaries

I always tell people how important it is to have a boundary discussion before…


Summary of march discussion group

Once a month we have a discussion group on the Island of Pain in Second Life.…


How to be a good dominant

I always get the question, how to be a good dom. Let's first start with the…