What to do when everything seems stuck

Challenging one self and each other as a BDSM-couple can at times be hard. The…


I have arrived

I have been challenged hard these last weeks. I have battled submission, pain,…


Todays post is silly

It is even all lovey dovey and puttig nuttig. I just want to say that I feel a…


Be careful what you wish for...

So, I have been exploring the switch side of me and in that exploration I found…


I am all over the place...

I just can not seem to gather my thoughts thees last few days. So writing seems…


Short on inspiration again...

..or the things I have to say is too big to write about... But yesterday I…


The greater good of BDSM

So, why do we all bother with all this work, pain and confusion? The answer is…


The difference between giving up and giving in...

Reaching submission is hard work, even if you are an experienced submissive.…


Submission makes me greedy

The closer I get to submission the greedier I get. The more important the…


Getting used and abused, not loved

So now I am lost for words! Just red a blog from a 18 year old schoolgirl…


The safe words goes two ways

As the BDSM journey progress deeper and deeper in pushing boundaries and…


Getting too sure of oneself

As a BDSM partnership progress you get quite sure of yourself and each other.…


What makes the Sub submissive?

How much submission must I, as a Sub, show and feel to be an actual submissive.…


How much is too much?

Or: Are you allowed to momentarally hate your Dom?! So here I sit with a…


I will go all switch on you now

Or, could one be submissive when you are a dominant? The answer is of cause…


Presenting AllSmiles...

Writing is back on track again as things in RL is getting sorted out. I would…


A good BDSM movie

A good movie about the essence of BDSM, rather than porn, is hard to come…


Summary of march discussion group

Once a month we have a discussion group on the Island of Pain in Second Life.…